Comments on Le Musings of Moi: guilt trips and therapy

I've been HEALED! Can I get a witness?! Pra...

2009-07-23T11:07:03.963-07:00

I've been HEALED! Can I get a witness?! Praisalujah!

OK, seriously, good stuff today. Or, yk, the day you wrote it. Belittling myself, if only in my mind, is a serious hobby of mine. I try to refrain from doing it in front of the kids so they don't pick up on it and start to a)belittle themselves or b)belittle me, too.

Guilt sucks, but I can't seem to get away from...

2009-07-21T19:12:45.980-07:00

Guilt sucks, but I can't seem to get away from it totally. I guess I am just a sucker.

I seriously need to save your blog post on my favo...

2009-07-21T14:22:32.394-07:00

I seriously need to save your blog post on my favorites and reread it. My family - they KNOW how to guilt trip. Major trips there. I love them dearly and they know that if there's a guilt trip avenue, I'm a sucker to it. Even Greg attempts the guilt trips with me, mostly in jest. But I still react. I want people around me to be happy.. need to remember that I need to be happy to (not saying I'm not happy most of the time, but I've been known to put others first a lot more than myself).... that's why the guilt trips work. Ugh.

I carry around WAY too much guilt. I'm talkin...

2009-07-20T22:43:18.428-07:00

I carry around WAY too much guilt. I'm talking old guilt mixed in with new guilt. However, I'm learning or shall I say trying to let some of it go. What is it about hitting your 30's that makes you finally deal with your "issues"? Anyway, good for you that you have a supportive husband and have found a way to overcome the dreaded guilt tripping.

I gave up on giving in to guilt trips long ago. A...

2009-07-20T15:56:53.941-07:00

I gave up on giving in to guilt trips long ago. And I don't believe in therapy... the drugs are cheaper.

Kidding, kidding, lol.

My husband is a total guilt tripper, but in an &qu...

2009-07-20T14:39:12.984-07:00

My husband is a total guilt tripper, but in an "I'm just trying to be funny way".

I've learned to ignore him.

Kind of.

Wine helps.

And whine.

I still love him.

I am fasting guilt trips. I thought about fasting...

2009-07-20T14:30:51.115-07:00

I am fasting guilt trips. I thought about fasting chocolate, but decided fasting guilt trips would leave me so much lighter. And remember, Summer, there's nothing wrong with therapy! :)
Thanks for a great post. (Have I mentioned how proud of you I am?)

Fully enjoyed my "Summer" catch-up, and ...

2009-07-20T13:00:30.319-07:00

Fully enjoyed my "Summer" catch-up, and just to rid myself of my own guilt trip, please know that I am sooo proud of YOU and your writing, even though I don't read every day!!! :). (Just so you know, I only read anyone's blogs just a couple times a month!!!) hehe :) just had to throw that out there.

Still laughing over the talk b/t Tay and Jimmy and loved everything else, especially the Max Lucado passage.

Love you!

You could have taken those words directly from my ...

2009-07-20T11:09:19.613-07:00

You could have taken those words directly from my mouth, with one exception, I am totally in therapy.

I am needy girl myself. I need to be acknowledged....

2009-07-20T09:38:15.894-07:00

I am needy girl myself. I need to be acknowledged. I need to be patted on the back. I need someone, or everyone to say Good Job ! You are awesome!. I just need that affirmation. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. It's my love language. Affirmation and Acts of Service. See I'm not only needy I'm selfish too!
<3

It is great that you have such a loving relationsh...

2009-07-20T09:05:26.848-07:00

It is great that you have such a loving relationship with your hubby! And guilt trips are the worst... I get those all the time, when I go out without my kids, or to work, etc... but I don't think there is a cure for me!

I think that most of us can relate to this in some...

2009-07-20T08:56:58.235-07:00

I think that most of us can relate to this in some way. I also want to say that this smacked me in my face in a good way.

"And I came to realize, I didn't need to belittle myself anymore in hopes that it would stop him from doing it first. I didn't need to, because there was no belittling."

Great post Summer!

No light and fluff here on a Monday. I love it, S...

2009-07-20T08:07:03.399-07:00

No light and fluff here on a Monday. I love it, Summer. Your honesty and approach to writing is refreshing.

You are a lucky woman to have a husband like that by your side.

-Francesca

A huge lesson for me was learning that I cannot co...

2009-07-20T07:11:44.951-07:00

A huge lesson for me was learning that I cannot control how others will react to me. That's on them, NOT on me. Once I let that go, I was a new person.

So glad you're guilt-free Summer! That can wei...

2009-07-20T06:34:39.901-07:00

So glad you're guilt-free Summer! That can weigh on a person in so many ways...and most of them are just plain no good!

Happy guilt-trip free Monday!

What sincere thoughts! I'm glad you've fou...

2009-07-20T06:18:09.365-07:00

What sincere thoughts! I'm glad you've found the one you are meant to be with :) You are very lucky to have such a wonderful and accepting person in your life.

What sincere thoughts! I'm glad you've fou...

2009-07-20T06:18:09.139-07:00

What sincere thoughts! I'm glad you've found the one you are meant to be with :) You are very lucky to have such a wonderful and accepting person in your life.

I'm inspired by your honesty! And the awesomen...

2009-07-20T05:56:03.389-07:00

I'm inspired by your honesty! And the awesomeness that is the relationship between you and your husband!